Life's Journey, Woman to Woman

Diary of a MAD TAMAR: Part 2

The LESSONS

     If you haven't read the story, you must read it before you take a look at these lessons. PART 1-click here!

     To grasp an understanding of this story you must understand that WOMEN by our nature are NUTURERS. Our purpose in life was to serve as the backbone of our family, husband, and etc.! When God made EVE, he stated her purpose. For sake of this particular blog, I will not get into detail about the role of a female...that's in the accompanying book. However, I will say that we were made to be HELP MEETS! This is important. Women are able to nuture people into thier dreams, help them heal, "feel better", etc.; you get the point. This nature of the woman can be a blessing to a man when used appropriately. It will not only fulfill the man's desires but, the woman's as well. She fills fulfilled when being able to nuture her man into well-being in all aspects of his life.

     The sad thing is this, like in this story of a MAD TAMAR, men understand the nature of a women. They remember how thier mother nursed thier wounds, wiped thier tears, kissed them goodnight, and imparted in them power to birth forth thier dreams. They learn a woman's nature from birth, as they suck on thier mother's breast for life giving sustenance. As they get older, men find that this in fact is the nature of a woman. Women LOVE to LOVE. They LOVE to give and nuture. What is so bad about this? SOME MEN have learned to utilize this AGAINST THE WOMAN!

    Just like Amnon in this story, men will pretend or actually become, helpless in order to trap women into thier game of "needing help". Some men will use your nuturing attributes to attract you to them, making you think you can help him become a better man. Amnon did this to Tamar in pretending to become sick. She thought he was really in need of help and prepared foods, medicine, comforts, and etc. to nurse him back into wellness. She cared for him. Just like Tamar many women fall for this same trap, thinking they can "help him". 

1. Your nuturing nature is to assist others!

2. You are a help meet to your husband, don't let a man fool you to think he gets the MILK FOR FREE...make him put a RING ON IT

3. Think with your BRAIN & not your EMOTIONS!

"This beautiful young lady  was a virgin and had it together in all aspects of her life. She begins to care for the supposedly sick young man. While caring for him, she one day finds herself in his trap. One day while the young lady was giving the young man some food to eat, he asks her to sleep with him because he desperately cares for her. He asks her to share his love he has for her."

4. The old if you LOVE ME, sleep with me trick...Don't fall for it!

5. If he really loves you he won't trick you, pressure you, or seek to defile you!

6. If he dosen't love God then he won't love and respect you!

  "She asks him, "How would I feel if you do this with me? My virtue will be vanished and the people will make fun of me. Do you not care about how I will feel, after I took care of you and helped you?" She even went as far as to say she would marry him without hesitation. She cared for him and simply wanted to do things the right way to please God and keep his and her dignity."

7. If a man dosen't understand what virtue is, make him understand it by living virtuously

8. Recognize your worth and value. You are worth the wait!

9. You are worth having to play NO GAMES!

10. You are worth sacrifice!

11. God desinged you to be chased after like chivalry, not, tricked and messed over!

12. Ask him to show his true love for you by waiting for you. He will if he does (one of the easiest tricks in the book to know if a man really cares is to make him wait to have sex with you, however, many women don't know this trick and fall in the trap)!

     "That night the young lady, against her will, was raped and told by the same young man to LEAVE HIS PRESENCE!!!! The young man told her that he now HATED her and wanted her to leave his presence and never to return"

13. After having sex with you, a man's make up dosen't understand your value. You have now given to him what he was initally chasing you for. Now, what more to chase. Thus, he moves on to the next chase.

14. Be careful of the men you date, be decisive to rule out those who may force you against your will.

15. If he raped you, IT WAS NOT YOUR FAULT!!!

16. Being raped is against our own will, if he did that it was not your fault. Do not blame yourself!!

..........................................................................more coming soon